Tuesday, February 11, 2014

Is singleness REALLY a gift?

Well, I am posting on singleness yet again. I swear it has NOTHING to do with whatever Feb 14th is. A while back, I gave up my search and intention to find a wife. I figured it was God's will and leave it in His hands. I've also stopped praying for it, because I don't deserve one and I was sick of saying the same thing "Please Lord, bless me with a wife that blah blah blah". If it happens, it happens. Nothing to be concerned about.
The old cliche' says "singleness is a gift". That is partially true. In one way it's a gift because I can focus on bettering my life and relationship with God and chose to spend time doing anything I desire. But, the loneliness can get a little crippling. Singleness, ESPECIALLY in Christian circles seems to be a club nobody wants to belong to, or wish on their best friends. There is a certain stigma to it, like something is wrong with me if I am nearly 30 without a girlfriend. Churches use marriage as a metaphor in sermons, have couple themed retreats and kind of leave the single folk to deal with themselves. How sad! Now, one should NEVER leave a church if they can't find their mate. Internet dating is a thing (not for me...yet.).
After The Apostle Paul had his encounter with Christ, he went on several missionary trips to proclaim the gospel and often went alone. It is unknown if he had a wife in the past, but seems to know a lot about marriage and singleness as marriage was the cultural norm for everyone over 15.
1 Corinthians 7 is a good example of this. The unmarried and the widows did not know what to do in their situations. Maybe singleness back then was not customary, someone help me out there lol
The latter verses say that if we're not married, don't seek a wife. If you are married: awesome! Verse 32 is interesting stating "One who is unmarried is concerned about things of the Lord and how he may please the Lord. (NASB), 33-34 indicate that his interests are divided between the Lord and his wife. Now, married folk know how to balance this. In order of importance: God-Family-Friends-Job (even if it's ministry or "God's work). I know single pastors and their work is incredibly fruitful. Maybe their lonely too, but their focus is on God as it should be. So is singleness a gift? YES! Even though a wife would be cool, it's not a necessity. Plus: you can use corny Christian pick up lines! To close off this post, I give you the 5 WORST Christian pick-up lines ever. #foreveralone
5. Your bible would look good on my night stand.
4. I believe one of my ribs belong to you!
3. Let's go speak in tongues together! (ow ow!)
2. Is it a sin that you stole my heart?
1. You. Me. Songs of Solomon remix.